Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Save your relationship

Do you feel that your relationship has entered into an unhappy or stale zone? When this happens, a couple has two choices to mutually make- save the relationship or decide to end it. Now, if both partners focus on fixing their relationship and of course, the relationship itself is worth it, then damage control will be effective.
Here are some tips to embark on a "Save the Relationship" project:

Respect each other
It is vital that both you and your partner accept and love each other for who the other really is, complete with bad habits and quirks. After spending days and nights on end together, you both must have realized that there are vast differences in how the two of you interact, react and relate to things and people. Both of you'll have your own goals, strengths and weaknesses. So, the only thing left to do is make the best of these differences and use them for the better through teamwork. 

Be a better listener
All forms of communications issues would definitely be eliminated if we spoke less and listened more. Do you listen and then try to offer a solution, advice or criticism? It's a known fact that better listeners are more trust-worthy. So all you got to do is listen to your loved one so that he/she feels understood.
Take your emotional baggage to the laundry
We all know that we can never undo our past. In fact, if you're still burdened by your past, it's almost like mixing dirty linen with fresh laundered clothes! It's a simple equation: more the emotional baggage, more the insecurities, indecisiveness and fear. Moreover, you won't ever be able to grow individually and together as a couple. Just let go, talk about your feelings with your partner and see how things change drastically. 

Room for space
If you and your partner tend to spend all your waking hours together, virtually leaving no room for other equally meaningful relationships, this could mean trouble. This tends to cause friction in the smallest of things. By 'other meaningful' relations, we mean those shared with your closest friends, which brings about a much needed balance in life. 

Communication is the key
Let your partner know in a gentle manner, what exactly it is that's on your mind or perhaps something that's causing worry in your life. 

Highlight what's right
Communicating your relationship woes to your partner may be all well and good. But, try not to go overboard with it. After all, nobody likes to begin their day with a long list of complaints and criticism. It only reduces the other partner's confidence and self-esteem. Go on and compliment your significant other. And, don't limit it just to the person's physical appearance. You could show appreciation for the smallest of gestures and this will do wonders for your relationship.
Implementing damage control in your relationship will be an ongoing process that takes a while to blossom. In fact, you'd be surprised to know that most people who are in happy relationships have to constantly work at it all the time. So don't just sit there reading this; if your relationship is on the rocks and you feel that you would do anything to salvage it, well then go ahead and take the necessary steps.

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